Preface

There are two good preface topics to read before continuing with this topic. If you have not done so, please take the time to read about Pornography and the two cities in the Old Testament called Sodom and Gomorra which may be helpful as preliminary information.  If you are offended with reading anything to do with lesbianism and homosexuality from a Christian's perspective, then do not read this topic. 

Summary

With all the tolerance world-wide and acceptance, concerning homosexuality, there is still the problems dealing with homosexuality in the Christianity Faith. Tolerance, compassion and understanding should be a consideration in conversations when dealing with any topic that a human being's emotions are affected along with prejudices. 

Unfortunately, we all have seen and heard Christians, with hopefully the best intentions, try to tell others about any type of sin and how they should stop doing them.  The common end result is pushing away people from the potential saving knowledge and healing that comes through Jesus Christ.  There is a time and place for discussing any matter which the counseling and friendship should be done when there is a genuine desire by the receiving person, which is one of the roles that the Holy Spirit performs. 

History has shown that a great deal of harm has been done towards people who are lesbians or homosexuals which have resulted in murder, castrations, exiling, bodily harm and psychological damage.   This is absolutely wrong, evil and actually doing exactly what the Satanic realm desires.

Born, Acquired and Changed?

There still remains several questions when looking at sexual orientation: 

1. Is a person born with attractions towards the same gender? 
2. Does a person acquire sexual orientation? 
3. Can someone change their orientation? 

This author believes the answer is yes for all three questions.  Consider the effects of pornography which can lead to homosexuality, bisexuality and even potentially deviant sexual behaviors, which proves the answer to #2 and #3 is 'yes'. 

Disclaimer 1

• The author of this topic is not a psychiatrist, councilor, therapist or trained in this area; and does not have same gender sexual attraction. 
• The purpose of this topic is to try to bring understanding, tolerance, love and compassion for all people regardless of sexual preference. 
• This topic is not discussing deviant sexual behaviors that hurt, force, embarrass, humiliate, rape, do psychological damage, do body damage or even more extreme behaviors.  It is a very unfortunate state of mankind to have to mention exclusions.
• This author believes there is a hope that anyone can change if they desire and find fulfillment.

This author has great friends who are very loyal and of high integrity, who love Jesus Christ along with having same gender sexual orientation. 

We all, including heterosexual people, are born with sinful natures that have sexual desires can be lust to participate in multiple sexual partners, where God expects us to not give into our carnality of wrong sexual desires.

Christian Perspective Required

With all of the years of being a Christian, the author has noticed that this topic is a taboo area which is never discussed, unless it is derogatory.  There is way too many Christians and non-Christians experiencing hatred and worse because of their sexual orientation. 

We all need to keep an open mind and realize that we all face different types of problems, addictions and desires that are counter to what God intended because of our Fallen Nature and the Fall in Genesis.  There are people who are:

• Born with the desire to be attracted to their own gender
• Biological gender problems that can make a person appear one gender but have parts of the other gender's anatomy. 
• Have Psychological problems caused by their environment, parents, relatives, others that causes different kinds of sexual desires.

As a Christian you must not treat anyone with anger, superiority or arrogance!  Not understanding someone's desires for sexual intimacy does not give any of us the right to judge them.  God's role, of many, is to work with all of us in all areas, where all of us have sinful actions that just might not be sexual. 

There have been many well-known Christian Speakers which have said that everyone of us can have thoughts ranging from any one of the following:

• Desires to kill someone who has wronged us.
• Steal money from a bank to gain material possessions.
• Have sexual relations with someone we find attractive.
• Commit adultery.

God knows about our sinful desires and they are all wrong in His Perfection, where hopefully we never act on them.  Even if we do not act on them, this still means that all of us have the potential to act out any one of the following:

• Murdering,
• Stealing, and
• Committing Adultery

Any and all sinful activity in our lives is forgivable and will not prevent us being with God in eternity when Jesus Christ is our Savior, but there are consequences that affect our eternal rewards. 

It is this author's opinion that participating in lesbian and homosexuality is not one of the Four Greatest Sins, and it is not even near the severity of the Four Greatest Sins based on the scriptures.  For confirmation of homosexuality not being one of the Four Greatest Sins, consider what the true sins of Sodom and Gomorra, which are listed in the first section's point #5 that is highlighted in yellow of the Sodom and Gomorra topic.

Notice that in the two following scriptures, that participating in lesbian and homosexuality is implied but not named, where there are many others that are explicitly named.  

Scriptures to Consider on God's View

Below are a few scriptures that need to be considered with regards to this topic.  One of the best articles, found by this author, discussing the scriptures and misconceptions on this subject is on this link (<- click on the blue link).  If the link is missing, then see this PDF. 

Is It Possible to Change?

While the author of this topic is not attracted to the same gender, the author has firsthand knowledge of a good friend who formerly was attracted to his same gender but changed.  The rebuttal, spoken by both Believers and non-Believers, is this belief that men and women are born with sexual orientation and it cannot be changed.  The author disagrees with the caveat understanding that those who change can still have the inclination while not returning to it, where they have fallen in love with someone of the opposite gender to spend the rest of their life in marriage.

Disclaimer 2

Many people know there are so many variations of sexual attractions, needs and even deviant desires.  The following section, in this topic does not claim or assert that the following steps may change a person's sexual attractions, needs and deviant behaviors which may require professional counseling and assistance.  It is the hope that if the reader is looking for possible methods, then this may be an approach.  Too often, in the Christian realm, there is advise given to people to simply pray and things will change.  This is absolutely the starting point but more information is needed as pointed out in Hosea 4:6 which requires knowledge from God!

A Possible Solution

Before listing some steps, there are some scriptures to contemplate.  While we are wonderfully made, we are not perfect because of the Fall at the Garden of Eden.

A proposal of steps used to become a heterosexual person:

1. Pray for the Holy Spirit to assist you moment by moment.
2. Stop the same gender sexual activity.
3. Try to join a self-help group that deals with all sorts of addictions and/or specifically sexual attractions.
4. Work on fantasizing and visualization of a relation with someone of the opposite gender.  Use romantic movies and romantic materials that can include ones of sexual activities to work on the desires. 
   (a) Many Christians may find the use of materials that contain sexual activities objectionable, but it was used successfully by a friend of the author to gain the desire. 
   (b) It is the opinion of this author that people can (negatively) acquire the desire for same gender sexual relations from the use of pornography which glorifies parts of the body of both genders.  Therefore (positively), visualization and imagination, in the heterosexual sense, can be applied to change desires.
   (c) There is the possibility, asserted by this writer and proven by the friend along with hearing of other cases, that romantic and sexual materials can be used in a positive way. 
   NOTE: It is always good to consult and get a person of the same gender that is a role model Christian that should, but not necessarily, have training in this area, to help in the processes, along when to stop using visual aids.
5. When starting a relationship with someone of the opposite gender, do not discuss or bring up the past. 
   (a) This is the same in a heterosexual relationship where it is not healthy to discuss previous relationships with the current relationship / marriage. 
   (b) If somehow the person you are dating finds out about your past through other means, then you will need to be prepared to discuss it but only in brief as it was the past that is no longer you. 
   (c) Unfortunately, there is the potential that the person you are dating might break off the relationship because of it.  From your standpoint, the past is covered under the Blood of Jesus Christ through His Atonement on the Cross that was done for absolutely everyone for all kinds of sins!

Born with Sexual Orientation?

As stated above, this author and many highly respected Psychologists believe that people are definitely born with same gender attraction.  It is also important to consider some other aspects.

It is unfortunately known through the media and movies, that some people in prison will participate in same gender sexual activities but then come out of prison:

• To never do it again, or
• Developed a secondary sexual desire. 

The question is why did they participate in it?  The possible answer, besides being forced, is the vast majority of us have a deep desire for love, companionship and sexual satisfaction.  This prison example, illustrates that sexual orientation can also be learned or acquired which then hopefully means that it can be changed. 

The second area to consider is famous:

• Actors,
• Musicians, 
• Sport's superstars, and
• Captains of Industry

who get used to being worshipped by their fan base or subordinate employees.  In too many cases, these people announce that they experimented in many types of sexual activities that include multiple partners and others of the same gender.  The possible reason that this occurs is they become addicted to the adulation and almost god-like worship which leads to inflated egos and pride, all of which God hates, that then puts these people into a realm of anything goes to continue the sexual experiences.  It seems like the list is almost endless of these people being exposed or coming out publicly on the matter to state that they are now bisexual or no longer heterosexual. 

It is obvious from the Scriptures that God designed sex to be something pleasing in a committed heterosexual relationship.  Using the right tools, with submission to God, is there a possible solution to help those who have same gender sexual attractions?  The answer is absolutely yes when God is involved, where He will guide you to get the tools and help from people who have successfully changed. 

There are unfortunately disagreements in this area of the ability to change, but what seemingly is never discussed by those who disagree are two questions:

1. Is it possible for someone to be able to love someone of the opposite gender, which includes sexual intimacy, when formerly only having same gender attraction? 
2. Is it possible to substitute a heterosexual relationship going forward, with the help of God, and never go back to same gender relationships?

As already stated, the answer to question 1 and 2 is absolutely yes, and there are books and websites that have information on people who have accomplished it and want to help others.  There is also information on overcoming the challenges.  All of us are a continued work in progress and our priority in life is to love, serve and honor God in commitments to make our lives are more fruitful, joyful and for maximizing Rewards in heaven.

Is the act an Abomination to the Lord?

Take the time to possibly use the steps spoken about in "Is It Possible to Change".  The five steps are a good choice to consider.

Mad with God?

"It is not my fault that I have this attraction, therefore it is not my problem where I am mad at God for giving it to me."

There is not going to be a quick response that can remove your feelings of anger.  This author feels heartfelt compassion for you where it is been my experience in life when dealing with other types of issues, has given me the ability to have empathy and can relate. 

As all of us will or have the potential to be more mature in our Christian life.  We absolutely recognize the many other types of wrongful desires that we have had to overcome.  This author can absolutely tell anyone fighting homosexuality that they are loved by God and God will be there for you!

As stated above, while this author as a heterosexual and has not had to deal with homosexuality, I have personally seen God work to change lives in this area.  Additionally, this author has lost a beloved uncle to AIDS back in the late 1980s.  This uncle's funeral was like a Who's Who of the City where there was literally no sitting room at the Funeral and there was probably over a 1,000 people attending.  Before my uncle died, he spent several months in a hospital as his body began to shut down, where in positive sense, I believe God uses time like that for someone to draw closer to God and be reconciled in all areas of their life.  While there is no comparison between my uncle and the Thief on the Cross in terms of the life lead by my uncle, the point of the Thief on the Cross shows us that God is there for us in all things even up to the last moments of our lives!

Satanic and Evil Sexual Orientation Milestone with Schools

According to physiologist resources, young people begin to think about sex when hormonal and physical changes happen in their bodies that usually happen in the teenage years which is known as puberty. 

It is good that people, not children, should be taught that everyone regardless of sexual preferences should be treated without prejudices.  Incorrectly, the method and age chosen to teach will and is causing choices by children and teenagers to have alternate sexual orientation when there would not most-likely have been the alternate non-heterosexual choice. 

Hypothetically, if a boy has boy best friends and a girl has girl best friends where the bond of friendship was made before puberty then the young-person may decide to experiment sexually with their best friend because of the alternate sexual preference teaching.  When sexual experimenting by a child or a teenager has been done, then a bond has been made and sinful boundaries have been crossed.

There is the question on why human sexual orientation should even be in the curriculum.  Obviously biology classes will consist of how life is created, but sexual preferences should absolutely have no place in children and teenage year schools, with questionable information taught to even young people before a specific age that does not constitute indoctrination with an agenda disguised as acceptance, but really is to increase same gender sexual orientation. 

If sexual orientation and desires are to be free choice, then sexual education absolutely will influence choice when given to children before and during puberty because children will chose to start sexual desires based on friendship of the same gender. 

The other influence to young people's sexual orientation and enjoyment is being brutally damaged by completely unrestricted access to pornography.  A young person may have not thought to even view pornography if it were not for the sexual education at too early of an age. 

If a young person is learning about same gender sexual orientation as well as heterosexual relationship, then a young person is going to do Internet Searches for photos and videos.  The porn industry condones, embellishes, and promotes ever increasing sexual styles that are easily understood to cause disturbing aggressive domination against primarily women and even a subservient sexual partner. 

Psychologist have already been stating for several decades there is an increasing amount of therapy required to heal monogamous relationship which usually has a man, but also same gender relationship, with sadomasochistic sexual desires.  Unbeknownst to many people, the same rehabilitation centers that treat alcohol and drug addictions are also having increasing numbers of men and women there to be treated for sexual addictions. 

This author would state this last section of this topic had to be written because of the linkage with understanding the full range of same gender relationships. 

What to read next?

The purpose of Sex. What are the roles in a relationship  What is Abuse of Power?  What is Salvation?  Is it possible to lose Salvation?  We have eternal life.  Evolution is not real.  When a Christian suffers is there benefits from it.  Rewards in heaven.  Do we Tithe?  What does the 3rd Commandment tell us?  What is Grace and Mercy?  Is there an Age of Accountability?  Is there a place of unending punishment and exile form God?